Juli-YEAH emailed me this yesterday:
I try to plan things. I try to plan how I’ll do my hair. I say, ‘Maybe it’s an up-do for this Tuesday!’
Then I wake up.
& my hair has done it’s hair thing while I’ve been sleeping.
& it looks nothing like the way I planned it to look BUT IT STILL LOOKS AWESOME.
Short hair teaches me that I don’t have to plan every little thing. I can just live my life and let my hair by my hair.
This girl. She wins the prizes.
So then I was like, “Hmmmmmm, I should get some more cute pics of short-hair-don’t-care, it’s Wednesday!”
So I emailed Diana and she sent me this reflection, without me even asking!
…before I felt comfortable with shorter hair, I came across this verse 1 Peter 3:3-4 “3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes.4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” This explains my thoughts beautifully. It gave me validation (even though I reminding sometimes) but this really, really taught me how to detach from things and my hair in almost every aspect in my life and it gave me less stress, all while i was dealing with whatever I had to deal with.
How good, right?? Thing is, people are quick to offer negativity when you’re rocking the shorn-head look.
Cue more emailing with Juli-YEAH who then wrote:
BUT I HAVE MORE THOUGHTS FOR YOU INSTEAD OF CRAZY HAIR!
I was reading the edition of Verily that you gave me, specifically in the part about the public harassment of Egyptian women. It said that “Egyptian manhood has increasingly been threatened as the traditional stereotypes of women being confined to private spheres has been challenged.”
& this sparked a thought within me that has been trickling around my mind for a while:
Things are not defined by being “not something else”. A thing is.
A man’s masculinity is defined by loyalty, service, kindness, intellect, strength, etc., not as “not femininity”. Just as femininity is not defined as “not masculine”.
So as a woman grows in her own authentic femininity, a man’s masculinity should also grow, not be threatened. These two things should work together, not be controlled by the dominance of one over the other.
HOLY CRAP WHY ARE THESE WOMEN NOT WRITING BLOGS???
It’s because they’re busy. But when they’re out of school they should start blogs. For me. I would read them all the time.